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Open letter to a gun-buying husband

Posted by Mia Anstine

on Feb 13, 2014 11:27:00 AM

Woman-ShootingIt seems men are more interested than ever in getting the ladies in their lives involved in shooting sports and self-defense. In their eagerness, they don’t always consider the fit, size, and function of guns, much less the tastes of their siginificant others. Here is what some women may have to say to their husbands regarding their expert choice of side-arms.

Dear husband,

I’ve tried and tried to explain to you that I need to go choose and purchase a concealed carry gun. For some reason, you aren’t hearing my plea. I’m certain you understand the need to defend myself and our family. I’m not sure you recognize other facets that go along with my need to choose my own gun.

I am a better shot than you, even with that over-sized, heavy gun you chose for me. Thanks to it, I now have huge shoulders and my spine is curved from attempting to lug it around in my purse. I have no fear of an assailant stealing said purse: it weighs too much.  It’s sure to bring him to the ground in an instant.

I’m thankful you found a lovely holster.  I suppose you must have noticed the curvature of my spine.  Passersby are gawking at me as though I am the Hunchback of Notre Dame.  At least that big thing doesn’t make my butt look big.

Wouldn’t it be fun to go to the gun store together and let me touch, feel and grip the gun before we spend money on one? I could make sure it fit firm in my soft little hand. I could also choose from a variety of colors. Pink is nice, but it would match only a few outfits.  I would rather go with a more neutral Dark Earth color.

On another note, we will have to shop for holsters together, too. Other than belt and ankle carry, I can get lingerie holsters for a sub-compact carry gun? Imagine a bra or thigh holster. It will be fun for the two of us to go to the range, on a regular basis, and practice pulling my pocket carry model pistol from a discreet location.

I'm capable of protecting myself and the household. But you have to work with me on this one.  It is something we need to do together. 

Your Wife

It is always important to take a firearms safety course. If you intend to carry, be certain to take courses specifically geared toward conceal carry.

Five ways concealed carry courses can be found

  • Do an on-line search or contact the NRA to locate certified instructors in your area
  • Contact your local firearms retailer.
  • Talk to your local sheriff’s department.
  • Search the local newspaper for advertisements or classified ads.
  • Visit your local shooting range to ask about course schedules or look for flyers on their bulletin boards.
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Topics: Concealed Carry, Self Defense, Other


Written by Mia Anstine

Mia Anstine is an outfitter, guide, hunter, mentor, firearms and archery instructor. Among other publications, she is a staff writer for Beretta USA, Western Whitetail Magazine and guest at several other publications. As a public speaker she teaches and inspires others to get involved in outdoor activities. She takes pride in guiding ladies and children for their first hunts. She’s hunted red stag, bull tahr, elk, mule deer, black bear, turkey, game birds, waterfowl, predators, varmints, hogs, carp and has more on her bucket list. To learn more about Mia, visit her website at

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